I have learned a lot throughout my life. As a rule, I try to
learn something new all the time. However, what I don’t like learning is things
that affect my life negatively. One of those things is that I can only rely on
myself. I know I say that with the absolute word “only”. I don’t mean 100% of
the time. I would say 98% of the time. I haven’t been able to figure out why
that is exactly because I always try to be supportive of others. It’s why I do
what I do for work.
Personally, I have always had a difficult time asking for
help…in other words I pretty much don’t ask until I am hanging by a thread and
it is unraveling. I understand how important it is to take care of yourself and
your relationships. I also know that divorce is VERY common among parents with
children that have special needs. We have a child that needs extra support and
understanding. Therefore, it makes it difficult to leave him with “just anyone”
for extended periods of time. With Gage, things have to be done differently.
You can’t reason with him like every other 3 year old. We pick our battles with
him and usually those battles are for BIG things. For instance, right now we
are focusing on potty training. That is the one area I don’t back down on with
him even if it results in a 45 minute (or more) meltdown because he does NOT
want to sit on the potty. Anyways, I
seemed to have digressed. My ADHD is kicking today.
I realize that support is imperative when raising any child,
especially a child with special needs. It can be very stressful and you need
that reconnection with your spouse. For example, Gage just started Pre-K (which
he is adjusting fairly well…that’s a whole new entry) this week. It has been
very crazy getting him adjusted to a different schedule. It has been nothing
short of a miracle that I have been able to have him in bed AND asleep before 9
pm every night (thanks Melatonin). My point is during our days there is never
really any time for my husband and me to connect. He leaves the house early for
work and usually is gone until late in the evening. By the time he gets home, its
dinner time and then he is ready for bed to start the whole routine over again
the next day.
My question is what do people do if they have limited
support? Because I am trying to figure it out.
Until next time…
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